I was reading this great book about learning. It's called "The Growth of the Mind." I came across this quote in reference to how we teach, considering individual difference and motivating, developmentally appropriate lessons, as well as our measurement of a child's skills. Thought it was lovely.
"A child's success is not accurately measured by how quickly she learns, or whether her method resembles that of others, but by how well she learns when taught in a manner suited to her needs. Our school's failure to educate masses of children fully capable of learning is not the result of over emphasis on unearned self-esteem or touchy-feely frills but from reliance on a model that ignores the nature of the learning process." -Stanley Greenspan, The Growth of the Mind, p.213.
Friday, January 11, 2013
Thursday, January 10, 2013
Parenting from the Inside Out
If you're looking for a good book to read, I just finished "Parenting from the Inside Out" by Dan Siegle. What an AMAZING book to help you better understand the way we as a parents and caregivers may be affecting our children both positively and negatively. I really appreciated the gentle way Dan helps us learn to be self-reflective and change ourselves in order to be better for our children. LOVED it. A few gems from the book?
"Children don't need us to be fully available all the time, but they do need our presence during connecting interaction. Being mindful as a parent means having intention in your actions. With intention, you purposefully choose your behavior with your child's emotional well-being in mind. Children can readily detect intention and thrive when there is purposeful interaction with their parents." -p. 7-8
"Communication that involves an awareness of our own emotions, an ability to respectfully share our emotions, and an emphatic understanding of our children's emotions lays a foundation that supports the building of lifelong relationships with our children." -p.57
"When parents have conversations with their children in which they reflect on the internal processes of people's minds, children begin to develop mindsight. If parents focus only on their children's behavior and do not consider the mental processes that motivate that behavior, they often end up parenting for short-term results and do not help their children learn about themselves." -p.231
Anyway, hope you grab it from the library and eat it up! It's just lovely :)
"Children don't need us to be fully available all the time, but they do need our presence during connecting interaction. Being mindful as a parent means having intention in your actions. With intention, you purposefully choose your behavior with your child's emotional well-being in mind. Children can readily detect intention and thrive when there is purposeful interaction with their parents." -p. 7-8
"Communication that involves an awareness of our own emotions, an ability to respectfully share our emotions, and an emphatic understanding of our children's emotions lays a foundation that supports the building of lifelong relationships with our children." -p.57
"When parents have conversations with their children in which they reflect on the internal processes of people's minds, children begin to develop mindsight. If parents focus only on their children's behavior and do not consider the mental processes that motivate that behavior, they often end up parenting for short-term results and do not help their children learn about themselves." -p.231
Anyway, hope you grab it from the library and eat it up! It's just lovely :)
Thursday, November 15, 2012
Mirror Neurons
Hi Friends!
I was just recommended this video about mirror neurons. Although we're still at the beginning stages of understanding them, there's some awesome theories and ideas regarding how they may affect individuals with symptoms of autism. Really fascinating topic to consider. Enjoy!
http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/nova/body/mirror-neurons.html
I was just recommended this video about mirror neurons. Although we're still at the beginning stages of understanding them, there's some awesome theories and ideas regarding how they may affect individuals with symptoms of autism. Really fascinating topic to consider. Enjoy!
http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/nova/body/mirror-neurons.html
Monday, October 15, 2012
Playful Obstruction
Hi Friends!
So, I had a question about playful obstruction and I wanted to make a little comment about it. I was reading in this article by Stanley Greenspan (it's called "Strengthening Reflective Thinking, but he veers off on another topic first): http://www.icdl.com/distance/webRadio/documents/RadioShow2006020906L.pdf. Anyway, I was thinking about playful obstruction and really liked the way he explained it. Here's what he says:
"Let’s say we are using a relationship exercise where we are playing a particular game to teach the child to seek our help. So, we are deliberately putting a toy up on a shelf and then playing dumb like showing the child where it is, but how are we going to get there. So the child has to go, grab us, take us, move us to the shelf area. Here we are setting up a situation where the child is motivated to relate to us. This is a very good semi‐structured, problem solving exercise where we are not strictly following the child’s lead, we are creating a circumstance where the child needs our assistance. But, here too, while we are doing that, we will find an object that the child really wants, we won’t just take some arbitrary object that is pre‐designed. We’ll say what is the child really interested in? Is it a cookie? Is it a particular toy? And when we put it out of sight, we’ll make sure we have his attention so he sees us putting it up a little bit out of sight, but he can see a little bit of it. Then we’ll be flirting with him as we put it up there – we’re engaging. Then, as he starts making some gestures or sounds indicating that he wants it, we’ll help him along and point to it and say, “is that what you want?” or point to something else so he’ll hopefully look at the thing he wants or take our hand and move it in that direction or give us some other gesture. Then we may act deliberately confused to get more circles of communication; to get more back‐and‐forth’s. We’ll see how many we can get without frustrating him to a degree where he loses interest until we get as many circles we can as part of the continuous flow, and then help him retrieve the object either by offering to pick him up or offering to get it for him and seeing if he can make a choice. So what we are getting here is we’re using a particular exercise in relationship‐building and actually, shared social problem‐solving, but we’re creating a semi‐structured situation. We’re orchestrating. In doing so, we’re getting into this continuous flow of back‐and‐forth interaction. But also, we’re tailoring to his nervous system. If he is a hyper‐responsive child, we’re being extra soothing. If his needs are hypo‐reactive, we’re energizing up and being very energetic. And similarly, if we are imitating sounds, we’ll again be tailoring to his nervous system – being more soothing or more energizing, using more visual support or slowing down our oral or our vocal cadence to meet his individual processing profile. We’ll be making the motor part of the task simple or complex. So for example, a child with motor planning problems who can’t sequence or plan easily in the latter example of working together to find an object, we’ll be making the physical action very simple. We won’t put it on a high shelf where the child has to bring a chair over and take three steps to get us to help him get the toy. We’ll put it on a low shelf where he just has to kind of look over in that direction and gesture a little bit and we can help him. Everything is orchestrated to the child’s existing developmental level and their processing profile and we create that learning profile accordingly."
What an amazing description! Playful obstruction sounds like such a simple topic, but when you get to thinking about it, it takes a lot of thought, self-reflection and consideration for the individual child and circumstances. We have to remember the child's profile, their motivation/interest, the basic emotional landscape... it's our job to make a simple obstruction become something enticing and exciting and important to that child. So, how do you do that? You start by considering your child's interests. It is true that an interest is not always an object - it can be an idea or a thought as well. We can add simple questions or facts in a way that encourage the child to think and problem solve differently than before. Once you consider those interest, you add in an enticing problem or puzzle that allows the child to emotionally and cognitively crave involvement. They LOVE the suspense and excitement of the idea because you are there supporting them through it. By working through these situations with a child, they feel successful, excited and powerful in dealing with the world around them.
Anyway, thought it was a great thought and figured I'd share :)
So, I had a question about playful obstruction and I wanted to make a little comment about it. I was reading in this article by Stanley Greenspan (it's called "Strengthening Reflective Thinking, but he veers off on another topic first): http://www.icdl.com/distance/webRadio/documents/RadioShow2006020906L.pdf. Anyway, I was thinking about playful obstruction and really liked the way he explained it. Here's what he says:
"Let’s say we are using a relationship exercise where we are playing a particular game to teach the child to seek our help. So, we are deliberately putting a toy up on a shelf and then playing dumb like showing the child where it is, but how are we going to get there. So the child has to go, grab us, take us, move us to the shelf area. Here we are setting up a situation where the child is motivated to relate to us. This is a very good semi‐structured, problem solving exercise where we are not strictly following the child’s lead, we are creating a circumstance where the child needs our assistance. But, here too, while we are doing that, we will find an object that the child really wants, we won’t just take some arbitrary object that is pre‐designed. We’ll say what is the child really interested in? Is it a cookie? Is it a particular toy? And when we put it out of sight, we’ll make sure we have his attention so he sees us putting it up a little bit out of sight, but he can see a little bit of it. Then we’ll be flirting with him as we put it up there – we’re engaging. Then, as he starts making some gestures or sounds indicating that he wants it, we’ll help him along and point to it and say, “is that what you want?” or point to something else so he’ll hopefully look at the thing he wants or take our hand and move it in that direction or give us some other gesture. Then we may act deliberately confused to get more circles of communication; to get more back‐and‐forth’s. We’ll see how many we can get without frustrating him to a degree where he loses interest until we get as many circles we can as part of the continuous flow, and then help him retrieve the object either by offering to pick him up or offering to get it for him and seeing if he can make a choice. So what we are getting here is we’re using a particular exercise in relationship‐building and actually, shared social problem‐solving, but we’re creating a semi‐structured situation. We’re orchestrating. In doing so, we’re getting into this continuous flow of back‐and‐forth interaction. But also, we’re tailoring to his nervous system. If he is a hyper‐responsive child, we’re being extra soothing. If his needs are hypo‐reactive, we’re energizing up and being very energetic. And similarly, if we are imitating sounds, we’ll again be tailoring to his nervous system – being more soothing or more energizing, using more visual support or slowing down our oral or our vocal cadence to meet his individual processing profile. We’ll be making the motor part of the task simple or complex. So for example, a child with motor planning problems who can’t sequence or plan easily in the latter example of working together to find an object, we’ll be making the physical action very simple. We won’t put it on a high shelf where the child has to bring a chair over and take three steps to get us to help him get the toy. We’ll put it on a low shelf where he just has to kind of look over in that direction and gesture a little bit and we can help him. Everything is orchestrated to the child’s existing developmental level and their processing profile and we create that learning profile accordingly."
What an amazing description! Playful obstruction sounds like such a simple topic, but when you get to thinking about it, it takes a lot of thought, self-reflection and consideration for the individual child and circumstances. We have to remember the child's profile, their motivation/interest, the basic emotional landscape... it's our job to make a simple obstruction become something enticing and exciting and important to that child. So, how do you do that? You start by considering your child's interests. It is true that an interest is not always an object - it can be an idea or a thought as well. We can add simple questions or facts in a way that encourage the child to think and problem solve differently than before. Once you consider those interest, you add in an enticing problem or puzzle that allows the child to emotionally and cognitively crave involvement. They LOVE the suspense and excitement of the idea because you are there supporting them through it. By working through these situations with a child, they feel successful, excited and powerful in dealing with the world around them.
Anyway, thought it was a great thought and figured I'd share :)
Wednesday, October 10, 2012
DIR/Floortime Article
A nice article about DIR/Floortime at home.
http://www.todaysparent.com/health/mental-health/autism-dirfloortime
Enjoy!
Stephanie
http://www.todaysparent.com/health/mental-health/autism-dirfloortime
Enjoy!
Stephanie
Monday, September 24, 2012
Challenging Behaviors
Found a great little link about behaviors that we often see with kids with autism. I loved the way it broke things down and made me think a little harder about the "whys" of the things I see in kids. And it had some pretty good suggestions of things to try. Anyway, it's worth looking at anyway :)
http://www.autism.org.uk/living-with-autism/understanding-behaviour/challenging-behaviour/challenging-behaviour-in-children-with-an-asd.aspx
http://www.autism.org.uk/living-with-autism/understanding-behaviour/challenging-behaviour/challenging-behaviour-in-children-with-an-asd.aspx
Tuesday, September 18, 2012
The Danger of Technology
Someone shared this article with me and it was really fascinating to me, mainly because it makes so much sense. When I think about healthy development, I think about how important it is to have real life, face-to-face social interactions in order to continuing growing and learning. Technology is not bad, but it is important for us to regulate and recognize how it affects us. Are we still getting our play time with our kids or are we constantly being distracted by the phone, the computer, the tv? Are we getting long strings of imaginative play and pleasurable interactions with our kids (30-60 minutes or more a day?). Are we outside running around with them, enjoying the physical and imaginable activities that they love? Are we present with them and are they present with us? And if not, how do we change it so that both parties are more available and more capable of real-life, face-to-face, developmentally encouraging interactions?
http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2048363,00.html
http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2048363,00.html
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